1:1 Coaching

Self-Care Coaching with Ellen Gilbert. Become your own soul mate.

What You'll Get:
12 60-minute Live Coaching Sessions with yours truly, scheduled weekly
Email communication with me between sessions
Homework Sheets, Journal Prompts, & Habit Trackers designed to help you process the beautiful growth you'll do during the program
Customized Guided Meditation Audio Downloads tailored to your unique needs
Follow-up Love Notes & encouragement

Let me guess...
You're struggling to maintain work-life balance. You care about wellness in theory, but don't know where to begin. You feel you are always dragging sluggishly, and you never have enough hours in the day. You put everything ahead of self-care - your family, work, community. But deep down you know you can't pour from an empty cup. You're ready to make a change. You're ready to take the leap and find out what this whole self-care thing is about.

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Are you ready to hear, discern, trust and take action on your INTUITION at last? That small voice that whispers to you: "Don't play small! You were made for more!"⠀ 👇⠀ On the blog today: my TOP coaching tool and personal favorite way to connect with my intuition - Meet Your Future Self. #LinkinBio⠀ 👌⠀ This guided visualization is a fool-proof way to get clarity on what you want, what the Universe has in store for you, and how your Higher Self would handle any situation. ⠀ 🙌⠀ In addition to this FREE guided visualization audio download, I've got 6 ways to connect with your intuition on the blog today. #LinkinBio⠀ ✍️⠀ #FutureSelf #bodyintelligence #intuition #higherself #innercritic #trust #judgmentdetox #everythingisfigureoutable #guidance #gutfeeling #selfcare #selfcompassion #selflove

SWIPE👉FOR 7 RITUALS FOR A MINDFUL HOLIDAY SEASON🔥✍️🙏🎁💌💬 #newpost #linkinbio . Banish the toxicity, dysfunction & grasping! Instead, infuse your holiday season with self-care, mindfulness and gratitude. . 🔥FIND YOUR FIRE . ✍️TRANSFORM YOUR WISH LIST . 🙏MAKE A BLESSINGS LIST . 🎄CONNECT WITH TRADITIONS . 🎁RETHINK GIFT GIVING . 💌DITCH THE GENERIC HOLIDAY CARDS . 💬HOLD SPACE FOR MINDFUL CONVERSATION . Be the change you wish to see in your holiday traditions! We have to start doing the internal work NOW if we want to have an impact on others LATER! Read the full post at LuminousLeanings.com! . #family #gratitude #holiday #mindfulness #newyear #newyears #presence #ritual #rituals #selflove #selfcare #selfcompassion #thanksgiving #traditions #intention #mindful #wishlist #givelist #give

DAY 23 of SOBRIETY 🚫🍷🍸🍹🍺⠀ More reflections from my 30 day journey without alcohol:⠀ ⠀ It feels more radical to say *I will NOT be mindless* than to say *I will be mindful*.⠀ All things with self-compassion, grace, and balance. But, still, I'm making a declaration that I long to stop mindless consumption within my control.⠀ ⠀ Whether it's shopping, Netflix, insta-scrolling, drinking, or eating - ⠀ How can we bring mindfulness into these autopilot activities?⠀ By stopping, considering, checking in with our bodies and minds before moving forward.⠀ By setting intentions and holding ourselves accountable.⠀ ⠀ I'm noticing I don't even crave alcohol like I thought I would. ⠀ What I TRULY crave is SOCIAL CONNECTION and REST, both of which culture conflates with alcohol. ⠀ ⠀ I'm learning how isolating it can feel to not drink. There is a desire to reach out to friends, but without the buffer of happy hour or checking out a new brewery, it feels particularly vulnerable. ⠀ ⠀ I have found that unwinding at the end of the day with a cup of herbal tea is just as relaxing as a glass of wine. And I feel much more energized the next morning. ⠀ ⠀ I've had to face the music that, in new and scary social situations where drinking is central, I'm much more likely to disrespect my limits out of vulnerability. It's also been interesting to realize that I feel a distinct pressure to be the *life of the party* around certain folks who seem even more introverted and afraid than I am. As though, in an effort to put everyone at ease, I choose to over consume and really put myself out there.⠀ ⠀ But what I really want, in all social interactions, is deep, meaningful connection. Thank the Universe for my Moon Circle! A group of sisters willing to go there immediately and cut the bullshit small talk is exactly what I needed and will always need.⠀ ⠀ I'm also particularly grateful to not have had alcohol to *lean on* during this time of grief. Even while dealing with certain triggers at home, it wasn't hard to say no to alcohol. I felt more sensitive and raw, but I knew that numbing it is never a sustainable solution.⠀ ⠀ #sober #sobercurious #sobriety #alcohol #booze #drinking

15 Tips for Self-Care While Setting Family Boundaries (Useful when returning to your childhood home or dealing with large families/the holidays):⠀ 👩‍👩‍👧‍👧⠀ 1. Purchase clean food beforehand - say "NO" to anything that's going to mess with your system when possible, forgive yourself when it's not.⠀ 🥗⠀ 2. Set a schedule - try to stick to your routine as much as possible.⠀ 🕒⠀ 3. Leave the room when an altercation breaks out - even if it doesn't involve you, the energy can affect your mood.⠀ 💣⠀ 4. Set your intentions - how will you act & react in certain situations? (REMEMBER you can ONLY control yourself)⠀ ✍️⠀ 5. Share your expectations - let them know beforehand what's going on with you, what your intentions & expectations are for yourself, & ask them to hold you accountable.⠀ ☎️⠀ 6. Carve out my time DAILY for yoga, meditation, & self-care.⠀ 🙏⠀ 7. Pack books to have on hand during triggering situations or downtime⠀ 📚⠀ 8. Find ways to ask for quality, present time with each person individually. Be prepared that the answer might be "no".⠀ 👯⠀ 9. Pack herbal tea and essential oils.⠀ 🍮⠀ 10. Pitch in and help the household run - it feels good to do dishes, run errands, & contribute.⠀ 🍽️⠀ 11. Encourage others to join you in caring for Self - perhaps to share your yoga practice or connect with a walk outside together.⠀ 👬⠀ 12. Be really careful with alcohol / substances - sit with why you're using them & the emotions that arise from that question. Be mindful of their fueling effect on interpersonal conflict.⠀ 🍷⠀ 13. Adjust your own expectations - sometimes in big families, getting together can't really be about 1-1 time with anyone. Sometimes it's more about group chaos.⠀ 👩‍👩‍👧‍👧 ⠀ 14. Make sure you get enough sleep - pack your sleep mask & white noise. And consider staying in a hotel rather than bunking on the couch.⠀ 💤⠀ 15. Reflect on how each interaction is affecting your nervous system. Meet your basic needs & remember self-compassion! Place your hand over your heart and say, "This is really hard right now."⠀ 👩‍❤️‍👩 ⠀ #selfcare #family #goinghome #home #setboundaries #boundaries #expectations #regulation #reflection #intention #tips

With the upcoming holidays, I've been reflecting a lot on the concept of co-regulation.⠀ 👭⠀ Our ability to "get along" (as my mom would say) stems from our ability to regulate our nervous systems. You know you are regulating when you are able to rest, digest, sleep & heal. Regulation is a LEARNED SKILL that comes with knowing which foods to eat, when to seek space & silence, what movement or stillness your body needs when, etc. It requires PRACTICE.⠀ 👭⠀ CO-REGULATION (also called mutual regulation or social affect regulation) is possible when one person’s autonomic nervous system sensitively interacts with another person’s autonomic nervous system in a way that facilitates greater emotional balance and physical health.⠀ 👭⠀ This reminds me: I can draw boundaries all I want. But, ultimately, if I'm in the same space as another individual, their energy or their ability to regulate (or lack thereof) impacts my regulation!⠀ 👭⠀ Have you experienced that, the more sensitive, awakened, and present you become, the more you can sense the energies of others? (Whether you want to or not!)⠀ 👭⠀ I'm wondering... how can we have healthy boundaries while recognizing this phenomenon, especially with the people we love who may not yet have the skills to regulate?⠀ 👭⠀ I know leading by EXAMPLE is perhaps the best way to teach regulation. The more I take care of my own regulation, the more those around me naturally follow suit. I don't have to say anything - in fact, it's often better if I don't. (I'm likely to be met with defensiveness and rejection!)⠀ 👭⠀ Dear Ones, how do you plan to deal with co-regulation as you gather together with loved ones this holiday season? Let's start preparing in advance! This is what self-care is all about!⠀ 👭⠀ #selfcare #regulation #coregulation #gather #relationships #holidays #family #selflove #selfcompassion #regulate #boundaries #setboundaries

DAY 20 of SOBRIETY 🚫🍻🥂🥃🍾🍷🍸🍹⠀ ⛅️⠀ I am practicing sobriety for 30 days. This was a journey triggered by the realization that I often experience enhanced delusions when drinking alcohol. ⠀ ⛅️⠀ We all experience delusion, on a daily basis. In some ways, this is unavoidable. The practice is to continuously return to our true nature, the present moment, and the inescapable reality of life as it is. Meditation and mindfulness practices help us strengthen our ability to wake up and return.⠀ ⛅️⠀ In an attempt to return on a larger scale, I'm putting down the beer and bourbon for a season. This is particularly challenging for me, as I work in the brewing industry. I'm journaling what I'm noticing. At the end of 30 days, I will reevaluate my relationship with booze.⠀ ⛅️⠀ Putting my relationship with alcohol under the microscope has already revealed to me so much about my coping mechanisms, escape tendencies, addictive behaviors, and my own suffering. I highly recommend it!⠀ ⛅️⠀ I'll continue to share my experiences here. Tell me, Dear Ones, have you taken a break from alcohol? What did you learn about yourself? Or what does this conversation trigger within you? Sending love and light to you today. We are all trying our best!⠀ ⛅️⠀ #sobriety #sober #sobercurious #alcoholism #alcohol #mindfulness #drinking #delusion #selfcare #selflove #selfcompassion #addiction #escape #escapism #cope #suffering

Today on the blog... Exploring the wisdom of autumn, grief, and what the ancient Celts called "The Dying Time". Sharing my own journey with my grandmother's death. 🥀#linkinbio⠀ 👥⠀ Internalized capitalism transmits the beliefs that productivity should never cease and we should DO until we die. The Celtic tradition of my ancestors, on the other hand, called the fall the “dying time” and the winter the “dreaming time.” And it seems so fitting to me. Of course we need the Yin of rest, darkness, healing, even grief to counterbalance the Yang of summer’s activity, life, and labor. The light is waning, days are shorter, and the plants perform dormancy as their energy goes downward into their roots, causing summer’s fruits and flowers to die.⠀ 👥⠀ We are a culture yearning for rest, for permission to pause. For the darkness of winter to cover our strained eyes and bring us relief. Grief and death are more pieces of the life cycle that our society resists, rejects and turns away from. We suffer because we know, deep down, that – to resist death is to resist nature and life itself. It’s to resist what is inevitably coming for each of us. But our ancestors knew how to die and grieve. The earth surely knows how. ⠀ 👥⠀ Grief is exhausting and expresses itself sometimes suddenly in unexpected ways. If there ever was a time for self-love, this is it. May we all rise to the challenge and be proactive in cultivating a lasting self-care practice. ⠀ 👥⠀ #grief #loss #death #dying #wisdom #autumn #fall #dyingtime #celts #celtic #selfcare #selflove #selfcompassion #grieving #nature #lifecycle #ancestors

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