Namaste & welcome to another installment of cure-ated care & contemplation – my weekly round-up of self-care and contemplative resources.
Self Care: Shift your lens on life & remember, it’s okay to fall off the self-care wagon
Here, Gabby Bernstein shares 3 SUPER SIMPLE meditations you can do anywhere to shift your lens on life and care for yourself in a proactive way. Step 1: Shift your energy. Step 2: Shift your thought patterns. Step 3: Change you words. If you haven’t yet, check out Gabby’s books The Universe Has Your Back & Judgment Detox – she is a modern spiritual teacher who has helped me (and millions of others) understand the teachings of A Course In Miracles in layman’s terms.
I love Self Care with Gracy‘s list of “You know self-care is working when you…” The last 2 on the list are especially poignant: You know self-care is working when you realize self-care is a process and that it doesn’t have to be perfect to work, and You know self-care is working when you know to keep coming back to self-care when you feel tired, lost or numb. To be honest, friends, I haven’t felt much like caring for myself lately. This happens from time to time – we all lose our motivation for putting in the self care energy, and the willingness to nurture our souls comes and goes in waves. This list helped me remember all the beautiful benefits of self-care which spurred me onward on my journey, and it reminded me that it’s okay if it isn’t always a perfect path.
Contemplation: What are borders, really? & The stories we tell ourselves…
Our president has put children in cages in the name of tighter immigration, and garnered favor on the campaign trail by “othering” and disrespecting our neighbors to the south. Luis Alberto Urrea is a Mexican-American writer and thinker, who contemplates the idea and reality of borders in this thought-provoking episode of On Being with Krista Tippet. “The border remains a fluid, mutating, stubbornly troubling, enthusiastically lethal region. Perhaps it’s not a region at all. Maybe it’s just an idea nobody can agree on, a conversation that never ends, even when it becomes an argument, and all participants kick over the table and spill their drinks and stomp out of the room. I was born there.”
If you haven’t yet read Rising Strong by Brené Brown yet, I highly encourage you to check it out! I read it a while back, but had already forgotten some of the key lessons it teaches. I was grateful for this recent Super Soul episode revisiting the book with Brené. The concept of “the story you’re telling yourself” is one I try to bring into my marriage and conversations with myself on a daily basis. It’s the act of calling yourself out for developing a more negative/more dramatic narrative than what is actually going on, in order to investigate it and bring its truth to the surface. It’s completely natural for our subconscious to create stories to make sense of things that happen, but we can’t let our shit first draft be our final story. That is a good way to ruin days… and relationships! I liken this to Tara’s RAIN of Compassion practice where you recognize what’s going on and accept it before investigating the sources, and finally nourishing yourself.
That’s it for this week, Leaners! Until next time, be well & take gentle self care.